For long-term couples to learn conscious communication and connection.
We even managed to get Luke, my camera shy partner, to share his experience about doing this work!
In your relationship with your significant other;
β Do you find yourself in the same old patterns, disconnecting or in conflict about the same things?
β Are there certain areas of your relationship that you can’t seem to see eye to eye on or find resolve no matter what you do?
β Do you wish you could connect and communicate more effectively?
β Do you feel that something is missing in your relationship?
β Do you sometimes doubt your relationship and wonder whether it’s right for you?
β Do you long for more touch, intimacy, conversation or laughter?
β Do you feel shut down in these areas and find it hard to reach out or receive?
β Do you lack a feeling of general safety in your relationship?
β Do you know the love is there between you and you don’t want to leave but sometimes you don’t know what else to try?
β Do you feel your ability to connect, talk, explore, be intimate relies on a whole load of other stuff moving out of the way?
OR
β Do you feel like your relationship is ok but you just know that it could be so much better?
Whether this is the last chance saloon for you and your relationship or whether you just want to improve on a good thing, C-School is for you if:
β You long to become better at communicating with your partner.
β You want less rows and icy silences and more laughter, more intimacy, more connection.
β You wish you could get your needs met more easily by your partner.
β You wish you could get your partner to talk more. Or for you to be heard more.
β You want to find transformative ways of resolving conflict, increasing safety and connection.
β You are ready to deepen your relationship and take it to the next level.
β You are willing to take responsibility for the part you play in relationship issues.
β You need tools, hope and clarity.
β You are not afraid of deep work and you are ready to embark on a healing journey with your partner.
Does this resonate for you and your partner?
If so, I’ve got you..
I also want to say, relationships are not easy and, especially not, if you have never had the blueprint in your upbringing for the kind of relationship you desire to cultivate. Many of us have never been taught this or modeled how to cultivate a successful, deeply loving relationship.
AND if it is a last chance saloon for you i.e: ‘this-is-the- last-thing-we-try-before-we-give-up’ sort of place, please know that I often get couples coming to me when they have tried everything else and I can hold that. Why? Because I trust in these processes so fucking much and KNOW first hand that they not only work but they have the potential to literally transform your relationship!
'Conflict is growth wanting to happen’ – Harville Hendrix
So fear not, if you are a couple experiencing conflict in your relationship, you are being offered a gift, an invitation into deeper enquiry into yourselves and the inner world of your partner(s). C-School will help you to unravel it all so that you can spend less time in disconnection or using your vital lifeforce energy on conflict (which believe me I know is really fucking depleting) and more time thriving and living a happy, fulfilled life where your relationship begins to be a source of joy and nourishment.
How can I say all this with such confidence?
Because in C-School I’m sharing the exact same transformational practices and tools that transformed and healed my own relationship.
I’m sitting writing this from my happier, more fulfilling life and relationship. (Thank fuck!) and grateful that I can now be
of service to others.
Sit back, grab a brew and let me share my story…
For many MANY years, our decade long relationship has been challenging to say the least.
Think: consistent arguing, day long silences, bouts of minimal intimacy, not being heard, blaming the other, criticism, poor communication skills, regretful words spoken, ending the relationship in the heat of the moment, storming out and raised voices. The pain was pretty phenomenal. We broke up .. a lot... and when we did the pain was so bad, I always felt like I was dying. I know now that this re-living of the trauma of abandonment or rejection can feel like death in the trauma mind. If you have experienced this, no you are not crazy, or over sensitive. You have childhood trauma in the form of rejection or abandonment, as many of us do.
And, then not to throw the history of our relationship down the drain despite the painful patterns, there were also moments of huge feats of accomplishments together through adversity included raising a challenging fused family, deep support and learning from one another, huge up-levellings, crazy adventures across the globe with our children and fun, fun times.
Yep, we have experienced it aaaaall.
Despite the ups, when I look back at the downs and at how very painful it all was, I’m surprised that either of us stayed in the relationship. It was like we were destined for this path because no matter what, the universe seemed to roll her eyes, sit us back in front of one another and say, ‘this is not finished until you two mend this’.
So let’s get to the truth of the matter. The truth that took us years to be ready to fully hear and understand.
We were living out a trauma pattern and whether it was about money, a funny look, sex, the children, time spent together or even the fucking washing up, we were going to go around and around in this same loop until we were ready to finally heal the wounding and learn to allow in the love that was waiting for us.
Both us were perpetually playing out our wounding. Me: feeling the pain of being abandoned every time Luke walked out after an argument, and Luke: constantly feeling not good enough, blamed and attacked in my bid to feel the insatiable love from my absent father that I so desperately needed as a little girl.
Luke’s coping mechanism was to lick his wounds alone in his room, just like he had to do as a little boy. What he really needed was to know that he was enough and for someone to listen and help him regulate. What I needed was to know that he was going to stay and not leave when things got tough, to know that I was loved. Interestingly, the very ‘dance’ that we created in our relationship echoed the exact steps of our childhood. He: withdrawing (which perpetuated my childhood abandonment wound) and me: blaming, shaming and criticising (perpetuating his not-enoughness).
Sadly, neither of us was able to step out of this cycle until we learnt the life changing tools that I teach in C-School
I had unconsciously found the perfect Imago match in Luke. A relationship that caused so much discomfort that we recognised we had an invitation to learn, to heal, to unravel our trauma, our triggers, our memories, our childhood experiences, our learnt relational styles, our deep fears, our communication habits, our relationship expectations and our intimacy.
And that we did.
Our own work has brought us right here. To a thriving, happy relationship, one where rather than always being in conflict and depletion has now brought into energy and joy and being able to cultivate the life of our dreams. Once we had done the work, things started to change and we had room to bring more into our life (all root chakra stuff once we had some relationship security and grounding in the home) more money, our beautiful campervan and our dog, Bubba who we had always wanted!
Today I see two individuals who prioritize communication, dialoguing, and intimacy time. We know that when we nurture the garden of our relationship, our whole lives feel better. Rather than a constant drain of our energies, the relationship has become a springboard for our personal thriving in life and a sanctuary to return to.
In full transparency, we are not the Waltons (haha) and we don’t always get it right. But now, when the pendulum swings us into old patterns and old ways of relating, we use it as a marker of which tools we need to sharpen and what is not working for us.
This is the conscious path.
One where we can now be in service to the collective.
C-School, a trauma-informed couple's course, is the culmination of mine and Luke’s self healing in relationship, our own journey with Imago dialoguing and my year long intensive training as a Love, Sex & Relationship Coach and Imago facilitator training.
*I would like you to know that I share all of the information about Luke and our relationship with his consent and his acknowledgment of his personal story being in service to the importance of this work.
Let me introduce you to Imago, the incredible, bomb proof dialoguing technique created by Harville Hendrix which you will learn in C-School.
Luke and I have undergone some deep personal work, and a professional training with Imago and I can honestly say that is hands down the foundation of our healing and why it is the foundation of C-School. It is a skill for life and a transformation tool for all relationships.
Imago as a dialogue helps create safety, connection, empathy and attunement
‘Your partner’s unmet need is the blueprint for your return to wholeness’ – Harville Hendrix
In other words what our partners really need from us will be our deepest stretch, our growth edge. So it’s our invitation to expand. And you’re here for the evolutionary path, right?
That’s why you found this person, my love, and that’s why this shit may be challenging for you. Because they are your growth partner, inviting you to stretch from discomfort into expansion, into personal evolvement and into healing.
Your partner will show you exactly where there is personal healing to do, from past relationships, mainly from childhood, and you will do the same for them.
Even in the most loving of families, we can suffer childhood wounding. And it’s here to be mended, to stop the cycles that we have carried in our family lines for eons.
C-School will help to create a map for you both to guide you to your own unique healing and your personal evolution.
It’s not always easy, lots of it will be fun and interesting and loving and connecting but it will bring your stuff up and you do need to be ready.
This is big work for brave fucking hearts.
So beloveds, feel the feels, allow your resistance to show up, allow yourself to feel icky and nervous and doubtful about C-School and then get real, with yourself, with each other and ask, yourselves: Is it time for the two of you to embark on a healing journey together?
I trust you’ll know the answer and whether this is for you at this time.
β Learn more about yourselves and why you respond and react within your relationship the way you do.
β Learn what is happening in your dynamic with one another and how to end the struggle and find a greater connection.
β Learn to turn conflict into growth.
β Learn the daily art of appreciation dialoguing.
β Learn the beautiful profound and transformative art of Imago dialoguing around conflict.
β Learn a behavior change requesting dialoguing.
β Explore and meet each others’ inner child.
β Learn to talk to each other without fear of being criticized, misunderstood or invalidated.
β Learn to really listen to one another.
β Explore and heal your childhood experiences and wounding.
β Learn to regulate and attune to one another.
β Create a common vision of your shared dream relationship.
β Learn to invite the sacred into your relationship with ritual and energy practices.
β Increase fun and laughter in your relationship.
β Learn some beautiful touch and intimacy practices.
β Create a couple bubble (from the work of Stan Tatkin) to support each others’ needs.
β Release old relationship patterns and create new up-to-date ways of relating.
β Step into feeling deeper love and empathy for your partner and enter the path of conscious relating.
β Learn, connect and share with other couples if you choose to in our online FB community.
βΒ Β Step by step actionable video training modules.
βΒ Β A range of home play guided practices and worksheets for real-life application.
βΒ Β Longtime access to all of the program materials.
βΒ Β Easy to follow companion workbooks to use at home to integrate all of the learning.
β Note that this course no longer includes live practices with Kate and that if you wish to have 121 coaching sessions with her, these will be set up separately.
If you or your partner are not a complete YES and you're still unsure if C-School is right for you, but youβre feeling a stirring around it, then I welcome you on to a free 20 min call with me. There is absolutely no pressure. I don't ever want to persuade anyone but to give full answers to your questions so you can get clarity and I trust you will always know what's right for you after our call. Email me at [email protected] to chat.
How much commitment is C-School?
What if I am totally in but my partner is unsure?
Are there sexual practices in C-School?
Do you offer refunds?
Are there any couples that C-School is unsuitable for?
I know that C-School is something I would really benefit from but I just canβt afford it
I am Kate Lambert who will be holding you and guiding you through C-School alongside my beautiful team. I am a qualified teacher who gave up working in the system I no longer believed in to serve in the rising of humanity. I have a decade long experience of what it feels like to be in a struggling relationship and what it is to heal. I began my own path of healing in 2007. I run women’s circles and retreats. I am trained as a Love, Sex & Relationship coach from the Tantric Institute of Integrated Sexuality. I am a trained Imago facilitator. I hold an MSc in Counselling Psychology. I am a trauma informed practitioner.
I see couples and individuals in my private one-to-one practice, workshops, retreats and courses. I guide using Imago, sexual empowerment, embodiment, breathwork, somatic experiencing and Tantra facilitation.
I blend ancient mystical traditions, traditional coaching, ritual, counselling psychology and neuroscience into my work.
My highest consecration for this work is to our healing as a collective, to shed past traumas and raise into higher consciousness so that we, humanity, including our children and future generations, can spend more of our lives in love, connection and joy. I believe we are all meant to live a life of thriving and when your relationship is, you are!
C-School’s highest consecration is the path of love and deep remembrance of our capacity as humans to love and be loved.
I am often referred to as the queen of compassion. I would like you to know that my transmission and holding will be in service to this deep consecration and one of deep compassion, understanding and in service to the highest potential of your relationship and to the highest good of all for our collective healing and evolvement.
May we all know deep love, peace and joy once more.
May we return to our natural states of joy and thriving.
Deep love
Kate x
Anna and Mike
Thank you Kate. I was really starting to become worried about our relationship and my eyes have been opened in the most incredible ways, you’ve taught me so much....I’m so in love with Mike and more attracted to him than I’ve ever been. You’ve truly helped us in the most incredible ways…I’m eternally grateful xx
You have been instrumental in our relationship and I am truly grateful.
You are such a blessing and so very gifted.
Ciara and Oscar
After working with Kate, I have a deeper understanding and empathy towards my partner and myself. I have learnt effective and loving communication.
Realizing that there are no relationship user manuals out there and people like Kate are pioneering in guiding people to implementing the methods given. Amazing.
The biggest change in our relationship is we are much better at communicating with one another. I am much more accepting of myself in times of challenge within the relationship and therefore more accepting of my partner. I am able to let things go much more quickly and without resentment.
Clare and Neil
Your [Kate’s] guidance has been safe, gentle and loving and although can often stretch us out of comfort zones, has brought about the change we needed to find love again.
Neil and I have been together for over 20 years and although we have three beautiful children together, supported each other in demanding careers and own a gorgeous home, our relationship had become fractious, distant and misaligned. Although we were both desperate.
Your tuition with Imago has given us the ability to communicate with each other in a respectful way and understand what life is like for each other. We have escaped patterns of anger and defensiveness and moved into holding space for each other to listen, mirror thoughts and stories and improve intimacy.
We realize now that our relationship must always be a priority and we will continue to find time to work on us. We have reached a stage now where work is a great excuse to spend time together and we have found ways to have fun again.
You're amazing Kate...you've never made us feel judged or self-conscious and made everything discussed seem normal and valid.
Disclaimer for C-School
This course is unsuitable for those with unresolved or active trauma or those who feel that they would be better suited with a trauma specialist. This course relies on you and your partner being able to self manage any emotions or childhood experiences that arise.
This course is not intended for those with active trauma, severe mental health problems or addiction or abuse issues that affect their relationship. I highly recommend seeking professional support from an appropriately trained professional.
This is not suitable for those in an abusive relationship or where there is a distinct inequality of power.
It is very often the case that one person will invite the other into this work and one may be more eager than the other. This is normal as it often takes one to take the lead and illuminate the path. That being said, it is important that both partners must equally consent to embarking on this course and this work.
If these payments arenβt met, as per the exchange, we reserve the right to request payment in full or negotiate a new payment plan, and halt access to C-School content.
If you never end up joining C-School or choose a different mode of study, I wish you so much luck and my deepest desire is that my story brings you hope and this page offers some clarity and wisdom on your path within the world of intimate relationships.
If you have decided you would rather work with me as a couple through my online one to one coaching, please contactΒ [email protected]
